Hi, dear readers! I’ve evidently become a casual blogger who only posts once a week! Aren’t you proud of me? 🙂
I intended this week’s post to be something completely different from what it’s about to become, but when I logged in, I saw a comment that I think needs attention. It was posted on the guest book, and I think I’m going to remove it, because it sets a really unfortunate tone for one of the few places on the blog that isn’t meant for deep debate. However, I want to give it the proper respect and attention. Here’s the comment:
December 27, 2011 at 4:30 am
You seem to be posting very personal things about your family. This is very unchristian of you.
Have a blessed day
I’m going to be perfectly upfront about my thoughts on this comment, and then I’ll let you all have at me with every rebuke you can muster.
1. Let’s not criticize the person who wrote this. I don’t know who it was or why he/she wrote this comment, but responding with love is always the best choice. Also, it’s not about the commenter… it’s about the comment. The question is not whether the commenter is right or wrong. The question is: have I been unchristian in the way I write about family.
2. I honestly don’t know if it’s unchristian or not.
I don’t think the act of sharing personal things is necessarily unbiblical. The bible itself includes the most personal of moments in peoples’ lives, such as David’s sins and private prayers, so it doesn’t seem that there’s anything inherently wrong in sharing personal stories.
I struggle with seeing this as a dichotomy of secrecy vs. honesty, which probably isn’t fair. It’s probably fairer to discuss privacy vs. transparency. And let’s also consider that the privacy in question is partly my own and partly other peoples’.
There is a lot in the bible about making sure the things that come from our mouths are filled with godliness… out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks. Also, with parents, honor your father and mother.
3. One of the things I’ve written most deeply about on this blog is vulnerability, and there are parts of who I am that it hurts to share with others, but I do it because I believe God wants me to be connected to the body. I want the body (both online and in real life) to see a true person in front of them rather than a pretense. Sometimes family comes up, because they’ve done much to shape the person I am. With family, as with all parts of who I am, iron can’t sharpen iron if it never comes into close contact. God can’t mend those broken pieces of my heart if I never give my heart into His hands and into the hands of other people. That’s why I share personal things.
So… what do you think? Have I been unchristian? Please, don’t just jump on my side because you like me and read my blog for some reason. Tell me what you really think. Most of you don’t know me or my family. A few of you do. A few of you are in my family. What do you think? All of you. Where’s the line between privacy and transparency… honesty and secrecy?