A while ago, a friend of mine posted the following video on his blog.
I love it!
I love Jesus AND performance/spoken-word poetry.
And isn’t this video the best of both?
You wanna know something cool?
I accidentally was in the right place at the right time and totally got to see Janette ikz live!
It makes me SO happy.
Her hair is so cool, right?
And this poem does such a great job of showing the divine in a topic we usually trivialize.
Awhile back, I started writing a post about singleness, but it felt like I’m always writing about gender roles and criticizing the way leaders approach the topic, so, in an effort to avoid being that contentious woman of Proverbs, I never posted it. Here are some things from that post.
I’m not convinced I’ve ever heard a sermon about Ephesians 5 that didn’t sandpaper my heart…
Paul urges wives to submit to their husbands like how they submit to God, which, to me, suggests that a woman must have experienced submission to the Lord…
…in sermons about gender roles or marriage, there’s always that weekly-date-night push and synchronizing the schedules and other practical application, which is good and fine. What’s not fine is the implication that if we just plan it out, submit when we’re supposed to, and live within our prescribed gender roles, we’ll have shiny marriages that everyone wants to emulate.
… date night doesn’t save marriages.
Apart from the stirring of the Holy Spirit, a weekly date night is fruitless. And relying on the popular Christian life strategies might make us feel good, but it isn’t true faith.
So, as I think about sermons about gender roles, I guess I’m just disappointed that for women, it seems like the church believes that our submission will fix everything.
But the truth is that it isn’t a behavior change or even a shift in the way we understand our gender that will fix things. The problem is that we place our hope in everything except Jesus Christ; so often, pastors preach practical application rather than Jesus Christ.
Writing that post was pretty cathartic for me, but I wasn’t sure that it was very good overall. The things I’ve included here are thoughts that haunt me and shape my occasional aversion to ever being married.
Sometimes, I look at the submission pastors preach, and I’m afraid it requires a shallower relationship with God than I have now.
I know that’s not the intent, and that submission is hard, but pastors don’t show that. It’s like they get stuck on convincing women that we need to submit and they forget the divine nature of a woman’s calling. It’s the same calling as Jesus’s as He prayed for the Father’s will over His own in the Garden of Gethsemane. We get to be like Jesus by submitting to God. We get to be like the Holy Spirit in being a helper.
So the point of all that is to hopefully articulate the contrast between approaches to singleness, femininity and marriage that frustrate and trivialize… and the ones that show a deep, sensitive, divine dealing with them.
Yeah Janette ikz!!!!
I love that the poem doesn’t make me feel like a “good little helper”. It makes me feel like a child of the Father, a servant of the Lord, and a real person. And shouldn’t those always be our goals?